7 Ways to Be More Likable
Ever meet someone and you like them right away? Or, you just don't like them but you're not sure why? Ever wonder what people think of you?
Here are 7 easy things to do, and to teach your kids to do, to help you increase your "likability".
1. Make eye contact.
It's so simple, yet so effective! The most attractive quality in a person is confidence. But 'be confident' is not very good advice. Instead, find the best proxy for confidence, in terms of interactive behavior. And that's eye contact.
2. Put your smartphone in your pocket.
And keep it there until your conversation or meeting is over. Show respect to others by listening to them and not answering your cell phone or text while talking with them. One of my pet peeves is when I'm talking to someone and they start texting someone else! So, keep your cell phone away and others will love you for it.
3. Call people by name.
The next time someone greets you by name or uses your name mid-conversation, remember how great that feels. If you have trouble putting names to faces, try different strategies, such as writing it down or using imagery or rhymes associated with the name. Try repeating their name verbally when you're first introduced and then twice more in your head.
Don't underestimate the power of smiling. People want to be around positive and happy people. Additionally, laugh and tell jokes. People unconsciously mirror the body language of the person they're talking to. If you want to be likable, use positive body language and people will naturally return the favor.
5. Give a firm handshake.
Certainly not a limp and soft handshake, but don't shake too hard either or use your left hand to cup the handshake. Research shows that people decide whether or not they like you within seconds of meeting you. A firm handshake contributes largely to that first impression, as do strong posture and positive body language.
Listen more than you speak. Remember the saying, "You have two ears, only one mouth. That's the ratio you should use them with."
7. Don't just listen – actively listen.
Simply hearing words doesn't cut it. Likable people truly listen to the person they're talking to. Active listening requires four steps: hearing, interpreting, evaluating, and responding. Step one requires dropping what you're doing and paying attention. Next, paraphrase what you've heard and ask clarifying questions. Evaluating means steering clear of quick judgment and jumping to conclusions. Finally, give feedback to let the speaker know that you heard them.
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